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Tuesday, December 25, 2007

Maximise your social potential!

Have you ever find yourself being outcasted?
Do you find it hard to communicate with people?
Do you wish everyone would listen to you?
Do you want to feel good?

Well...maximise your social potential!

Let me tell you why.

Have you come across a person who is so naturally friendly that when you put him inside a room of strangers, he'll be friends with almost everyone in no time? We call such a people-person, someone unbelievably nice and charismatic that he can charm anyone into doing anything.

Let's take for an example the radio DJs you hear on the radio. Why do you think he earns a lot of support from his listeners? You guess it, by socialising with them!

A socially-empowered person achieves so much greatness, basically because of the people that catapult him to success. He earns the trust and all-out support of the people, whom he had helped before. He never runs out of help. He can do anything with the plethora of people behind him.

1. Be Sincere
Hypocrisy will just bring you all the way down. Be sincerely nice and interested to people. Once they perceive that you are Mr. Hypocrite with selfish intentions, you might as well say goodbye to self-empowerment.

2. Listen, not hear
To be liked and trusted by people, listen to their problems and sympathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen to them with your heart. Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Listen as if every word matters, and it does. Brownie points when they find out that there is a confidant in you.

3. Laugh out loud
I don't mean you force yourself to laugh for every joke cracked by someone, even though you do not find it funny at all (be sincere).This means finding humor in things and not being very serious. A person oozing with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually, attracts success.

4. Remember self.
Do not let anyone push you over in the process of socialising. Remember, you have to love and value yourself first before others. If you consider yourself to be respectable and worthy of affection, people will flock to you and not trample on you.

5. Do random acts of kindness.
Small acts of kindness matters the most, and this can be as simple as offering someone a bite of your crackers or offering elderly a seat in the train.

6. Contact your old friends.
Sad how some friendships are destined to goodbye, but thanks to technology, you can do something about it. Relive the good old days by flipping your yearbook and look for the great people whom you want to communicate with again. Adding these old friends to your roster of support peers will surely make you feel good all over.

7. Develop your personality.
Get rid of the bad traits and habits that perpetually hamper your growth. If you like to complain, easily angered and gloomy, then you definitely need to change your characters and habits. No one wants a grouchy friend!

8. Be confident
Be able to walk to the other corner of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember: be confident, not arrogant.

9. Practice control.
When angry, don't snap at anyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and collected. Be adult enough to take control of situation and transform your anger into something more productive and passive. As soon as people think your anger goes to volcanic proportions easily, they will find it hard to come to you.

10. Keep nurturing your relationships.
Your relationship with your family, friends and significant others is too precious that you must not neglect it whatever happens. Go out and have fun with them. Do things together. Happiness will never fly from your side as long as the people who matter the most are close to you.
In the end, using people for self-empowerment means becoming a better and more lovable person. It's a win-win situation: the people know they can turn to you anytime and vice versa.


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